The Bible says, “Husbands love your wives and wives respect your husbands” (Eph. 5:31). My friend Zig Ziglar once said, that the key to a good marriage is a good fight. For Zig, a good fight was a fair fight that ends well. Every marriage has its share of disagreements, and sometimes those disagreements can escalate into a fight.
Zig gave this recipe for having a fair fight with your mate:
- He said pull two chairs about 18 inches apart. Sit face to face. Hold your mate’s hand and look each other in the eyes.
- Start your fight by saying, “We are best friends, and it is not who is right but what is right.” Remember, almost never is one spouse 100% right or wrong.
- Begin to discuss the problem. Try to come to resolutions and solutions.
Someone asked Zig, “What kind of fight can you have with your mate while holding hands?” Zig responded, “Not a very good one, and that is the point!” If you are married, the Bible says love your wife. If you are sleeping in separate bedrooms, the Bible says love your neighbor. If you are mad at each other, the Bible says love your enemies
So, if you have a fight in your marriage, make it a “Good Fight”. After all, its not who is right but what is right!