While studying for my current sermon series, “Unbelievable Love,” I came across a letter from Ronald Reagan to his son. The letter was penned in June of 1971 in regards to his son’s upcoming marriage.
The letter said:
“You’ve heard all the jokes that have been rousted around by all the ‘unhappy marrieds’ and cynics. Now, in case no one has suggested it, there is another viewpoint. You have entered into the most meaningful relationship there is in all human life. It can be whatever you decide to make it ….
There are more men griping about marriage who kicked the whole thing away themselves than there can ever be wives deserving of blame. There is an old law of physics that you can only get out of a thing as much as you put in it. The man who puts into the marriage only half of what he owns will get that out..It [takes] quite a man to remain attractive and to be loved by a woman who has heard him snore, seen him unshaven, tended him while he was sick, and washed his dirty underwear. Do that and keep her still feeling a warm glow and you will know some very beautiful music.
You know better than many what an unhappy home is and what it can do to others. Now you have a chance to make it come out the way it should. There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.
(Then he offered this PS)
You’ll never get in trouble if you say, “I love you” at least once a day.
Love is a very powerful word, but it is not just a WORD. LOVE takes hard work, tenderness, respect, patience, and admiration. Your marriage is a great investment! It is not too late to attend Cottonwood Creek’s “Love & Respect Marriage Conference this Friday Night & Saturday morning February 15-16. Go to www.cottonwoodcreek.org for more information on the event.
Don’t just think about it, act on it today!
John Mark Caton