INC Magazine published an interesting article called, “Habits of Remarkably Likable People.” The article suggests a few simple truths; however, the difficulty is in the application of these principles to daily life.
According to research, the most likable people lose the “Power Pose.” In other words, they do not make others feel less important. In fact, remarkably likable people make others feel more important.
Next, likable people understand the power of “Touch.” While keeping your distance in a lot of settings is a good idea, to really engage with others in a likable moment, consider a touch on the shoulder or a two-handed handshake that lets the other person know you really care.
Then likable people acknowledge the strengths of others. Nobody is perfect at everything. Acknowledging the strengths of others creates a genuine connection.
Finally, remarkably likable people do not ask for anything. In other words, they appreciate the relationship for what it is…a relationship that is mutually beneficial, not a relationship of getting something you need.
2,000 years ago, the Apostle Paul expressed this simple point by saying, “10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”(Romans 12:10)
Being likable is not about personal accomplishments; it is about being personal. Being likable is not about power but humility. Being likable is not about getting but giving.
Have a Blessed day!
John Mark Caton, Ph.D