The Apostle Paul gives us this simple advice, “Rejoice with those who rejoice…” Romans 12:15

That may seem like a trivial matter but it’s not. How we rejoice with someone else’s good news can make or break our relationship with them. It can build the relationship up or tear it down.

Psychologist Shelly Gable of UCLA has researched what makes our relationships great. She found a big factor is how people respond when others share good news. In other words, what do you say when someone tells you he/she just got a promotion? What about when your daughter brings home the math test she aced or when a friend calls to give you the highlights of a vacation you couldn’t afford?

Gable’s research found that too often people point out problems with the news or seem uninterested which harms our relationships. On the other hand, if we capitalize on the good news and rejoice, our relationship quotient skyrockets.

Remember the words of the Apostle Paul when you speak to your spouse, talk with your kids, or interact with your friends. “Rejoice with those who rejoice!” Watch your relationships improve!

John Mark Caton, Ph.d

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