Before The Sun Goes Down – October 18, 2016
Ephesians 4:25-28, Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. 26“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27and do not give the devil a foothold. 28Anyone who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with their own hands, that they may have something to share with those in need.
Over the past few weeks, I’ve been in a teaching series at Cottonwood Creek titled, ‘Relationship Goals God’s Way!’ During the first few weeks I spoke about four aspects of great relationships, which are love, humility, forgiveness and commitment. If you missed any of those thoughts, you can find them on my daily blog.
The next fundamental key to great relationships, is knowing the do’s and don’ts of successful relationships. In Ephesians 4, Paul gives us that list. The second do and don’t of the week is found in Ephesians 4:26 when Paul says, “In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” Paul says to not sin in your anger by letting it linger, smolder and grow. Instead, Paul says resolve your anger quickly. How quickly? “Before the sun goes down.” Paul says, great relationships know how to resolve anger quickly.
Notice Paul says, “In your anger do not sin.” Paul didn’t say don’t get angry. We are all naturally emotional beings and when we live with other emotional beings there are going to be times we disagree and get angry. Honestly, we can’t control that. Anger will happen in every relationship, but it is what you do with the anger that matters. While we can’t control getting angry or not, we can control whether it lingers, festers and grows. That’s a choice we make. So if you want to have great relationships, Paul says, resolve your anger and don’t let it grow.
Think about that and have a blessed day!
John Mark Caton, Ph.D