Quarreling Hurts Our Careers – May 6, 2016
James 4:1, What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 3When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
Proverbs 15:18, A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but the slow to anger calms a dispute.
Proverbs 30:33, For the churning of milk produces butter, and pressing the nose brings forth blood; so the churning of anger produces strife.
Proverbs 20:3, Keeping away from strife is an honor for a man, but any fool will quarrel.
This week, my blogs have been looking at what James, the brother of Jesus, said about fights and arguments. James 4:1 states, “What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you?” James states that most fights and arguments come from jealousy or envy. So far this week, it has been noted that jealousy and envy negatively affect our personal relationships and our marriages. (If you missed these earlier blogs, you can find them @ www.johnmarkcaton.com.) The third area that quarreling and fighting impacts is the relationships we have at the office or the workplace.
A recent study completed on conflict in the workplace found that between 30-43% of a manager’s time is spent mediating conflict between employees. But even more importantly, about 65% of performance problems are the result of strained relationships between employees. When you add those two numbers together, you might well find that over 50% of all job losses occur because of conflict in the workplace.
So, if you want to be successful at the office, don’t constantly battle or fight against those with whom you work. Ultimately, it will kill your performance and drain your managers energy, and as a result, put your job security in jeopardy.
Think about that…and have a blessed weekend.
John Mark Caton, Ph.D