Christians Are Judgmental and Unforgiving! – March 9, 2016

Ephesians 4:32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.

Colossians 4:5 Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity. 6Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.

1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Recently, I read an article listing five reasons people do not like Christians. If you missed the first two reasons, you can find them on my daily blog @ www.johnmarkcaton.com. A third reason that people do not like Christians is because the accuse believers of being unforgiving. The truth is some Christians are unforgiving, but that is not unique to Christians.

However, most Christians I know are anything but unforgiving. And why is that? The Bible says in Ephesians 4:32, that Christians should, “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Most Christians I know practice that very principle of forgiveness.

Christians are also told in Colossians 4:5, “Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity. 6Let your speech always be with grace…” Christians are told to forgive as God forgave you, and they are also told to let our speech be season with grace. Neither of those verses lead a Christian towards a life of un-forgiveness.

Christians and non Christians alike can expect more from others than they expect from themselves. They want to be forgiven by others, but when they are hurt, they don’t want to forgive. If you are judging someone today, ask yourself, what is the purpose and result of judging and not forgiving. The purpose is to make yourself feel/look better, to protect yourself from harm, and to distance yourself from an unwanted situation. Ask yourself, what would it look like if you did forgive. What would happen if instead of judging, you tried to be a part of a solution to someone’s problem?

So, today, as you interact with others, make sure you do it with a spirit of grace and forgiveness. People may just enjoy being around you a lot more.

Think about it and have a blessed day!

John Mark Caton, Ph.d